December 2, 2023 | Rome, Italy

Ciao Lou

By |2018-03-21T18:57:49+01:00November 1st, 2013|First Person|
Lou Reed and his musician wife Laurie Anderson.

ou Reed died doing Tai Chi. The image is perfect. The man who enchanted me with his true-to-life tales of scoring dope, mainlining methamphetamine and dressing up as a woman died in the peace of his own home while practicing a meditative form of martial arts. (My own father suffered a heart attack in his home after jogging — his passion — while walking up the stairs to take a shower. At the time, Lou was promoting his “New York” album. They were born, for the record, a month apart in 1942: my father in Rome, Lou on Long Island.) The mind grasps for parallels, synchronicities, anything it can hold on to in order to make sense of loss.

I didn’t know Lou personally. I met him only once, briefly, at the Gotham Book Mart in New York City around 2000. I was working there and he came in to visit the owner Andy Brown. There were pictures in the hallway of parties the bookshop had hosted in its glory days. Among them was a picture of Andy and Lou from the mid 1970s, the decade Lou wasn’t supposed to have survived. I was in fan-boy mode, and I think I just walked over to him and said something stupid like, “I’m a really big fan” and shook his hand. He was shorter than I’d imagined, but he filled the room with his presence.

I saw Lou in concert in 1996 at the Beacon Theater touring for “Set the Twilight Reeling.” At the time I was so deeply in thrall of the Velvet Underground that I believe I wore wrap-around sunglasses to the evening concert. I did that sort of thing. (In college I had made a t-shirt out of Richard Hell’s “Please kill me” motto. I considered it performance art.)

One of the most astute comments I’ve read on Twitter about Lou’s passing — and there were thousands — was that so many people seem to have taken it so personally. A bit, I thought, like the day John Kennedy died. A little piece of the known world is gone. Lou himself was an excellent eulogizer. He left us unforgettable portraits of his mentors Delmore Schwartz and Andy Warhol, not to mention songs like “Halloween Parade” and albums like “Magic and Loss.” On the recent “Like a Possum,” Lou repeats adamantly — and mournfully — “I’m the only one left standing.” He knew from loss.

It was through Lou Reed that I discovered Schwartz and Ornette Coleman, doo-wop music and Lenny Bruce. It was like the various cultural strands of 20th century America somehow came together in him: black music and Jewish humor, rock and jazz, high art and drug culture, poetry and street talk, the exotic and the mundane. Somehow they found a new form of expression through this man and his music, which has in turn influenced pretty much everyone since. Because, in the end, it was a question of attitude. Lou was uncompromising in his art.

If I were to go into a list of songs and lyrics I love this appreciation would turn into a book, and many have already been written. But that isn’t my purpose here. I just wanted to give a personal appreciation of Lou because his loss is (in his words) “like a hole in my heart the size of a truck.”

So thank you, Lou, and goodbye.

About the Author:

Marc Alan Di Martino runs a small language school in Perugia where he teaches English as a Foreign Language. He wrote the "Man About Rome" column from 2008 through June 2013.